“This culture may not be our fault, but it is our problem to fix,” athletes at a prominent private high school in Massachusetts wrote in the school paper last year. Rob Okun features them as hope kindlers in this excerpt from his anthology “Voice Male.”
When “boys” keep killing their mothers, children, strangers–committing suicide by mass murder–isn’t it time we took the crisis in masculinity seriously? There are plenty of ways we can help troubled boys and men. The numbers are getting numbing, so let’s do something fast.
Behind closed doors in tiny U.S. towns, vast suburban ranch houses and apartments in big cities, many lonely, angry, disconnected men feel helpless, hopeless. These men’s role in massacres, Rob Okun says, means it’s time to talk about male violence.
Sometimes a father has a chance to get away with a son and talk and be close. It’s an important form of intimacy, writes Rob Okun, and one that fathers–young and old–should feel free to talk about and share.
Allegations of child sex abuse at Penn State provide a teachable moment for male sports culture–and the rest of us: Being silent can now get you in trouble. Rob Okun says the NCAA should start running teach-ins about the new game rules straight away.
A recent editorial about a domestic violence murder case in Massachusetts placed the onus on stopping this violence on women. Rob Okun says the responsibility lies with men too, and that it’s time for men to speak up.
With all the sensationalist sex scandals engulfing high-profile men in recent weeks, Rob Okun says Father’s Day offers a chance to celebrate the men who aren’t getting so much notice, but are quietly upholding their end of things.