By Ashley-Nicole Weatherington
Monday, August 29, 2011
How can a shy young woman possibly survive a political leadership training program designed for extroverts? Ashley-Nicole Weatherington describes how she got it done.
I began to jolt myself out of that comfort zone by applying for the political leadership program, which has been operating since 1991 out of its home base in New Jersey. It also runs in a number of other states, including Pennsylvania, Ohio and Illinois.
But even after I applied I knew the whole thing could be a stretch for me. Not only did it mean that I'd be in a group setting that might once again be wrong for me, I figured everyone would be loaded with political smarts.
I always vote and follow the news pretty closely. But I'm not what one would call a political junkie. And I feared I wouldn't be on the same intellectual level as the other female students and staff. All in all I was excited but also nervous, intimidated and anxious.
This program did not merit any of these fears. It was a gathering of intelligent, friendly, open-minded women.
Once we arrived on campus, we were given binders to guide us through six intensive 13-hour days designed to simulate the hurly burly of a politician's day. In scanning the agenda I spotted my horror of horrors: a workshop on public speaking.
And I did honestly hate it. We had the simple task of introducing the person sitting to our right by name; home town; college or university and class, year and major; and why they wanted to attend NEW Leadership. We had to learn this in five minutes.
I held my partner back until the last possible moment, when every other pair had finished. I managed to survive, but I know I looked nervous, shaky and by the end I'd almost lost the ability to breathe. A "networking" event was also pretty tough, but by the end of the dinner I managed to get the courage to speak to someone.
By contrast, I really enjoyed almost everything else. There were many workshops and activities where I found it easy to speak up and participate, including a mock-lawmaking project where we argued over a bill for education reform in New Jersey.
There was also a "political Jeopardy" game based on the TV game show. This version tested players' knowledge of women in politics. One question asked how many women of color are in the U.S. Senate. Everyone was rushing through their binders trying to find the answer, but no luck.
No one could answer. However the long pause was the answer. There are no women of color in the U.S. Senate.
A diversity workshop, called "Emerging Leaders in a Nation of Differences," required us at one point to speak about our experiences in terms of race, class and gender. I described myself as a native of Newark, N.J., a black feminist and aspiring writer. In other words, I didn't reveal much. But during a discussion with two other students I did find myself disclosing that I was not sure if I wanted to be a mother or even be married. That came out accidentally.
One workshop was about race and class. During that several young women revealed emotional past experiences and obstacles they've faced (which I won't discuss out of respect for them) due to their skin color, gender, physical disability or income status. I was moved by their stories of overcoming stereotypes.
I'm not one for sharing my emotions with anyone, so I didn't want to discuss any of my personal hardships. But the things that other people said helped me. I think my own personal problems are the ultimate worst and rarely think about other people having to overcome personal disadvantages.
There was one blooper moment when I felt embarrassed for another participant in the program. It was on a tour of the state house in Trenton, New Jersey's capital. We were given a quick look at Gov. Chris Christie's office. Several portraits of past governors hung on the walls. One student pointed at the only woman in the gallery and asked "Who is that?" Of course it was Christine Todd Whitman, New Jersey's first female governor. A tremor ran through our group, but the moment passed and we all moved on.
Attending this program helped me learn a lot about politics and reduced my sense of social timidity.
Will I be part of the group of young political women who run for office and help chain that stubborn 17 percent level that we face in Congress?
I have no idea. I learned that some of what's entailed isn't as difficult as I thought. As long as everyone else is moving around and talking--as in the networking and lawmaking exercises--I think I'd do fine. But if I ever seriously tried running for office I still think I'd have to hire a double to give stand-alone speeches.
But the big lesson of it all might be a sense of appreciation for the people who go into politics. Now I think I have a better idea of what they give of themselves.
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Ashley-Nicole Weatherington is an editorial intern at Women's eNews.
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