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Muslim American Women Tell Their Own Love Stories

Sunday, February 26, 2012

It's about lifting the veil and giving an uncensored look at love, sex and dating, Ayesha Matta and Nura Maznavi, write in this excerpt from the introduction to their new book, 'Love InshAllah.'

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We start with "Allahu Alim." Every important journey ends by profoundly changing the one who undertook it. These writers set out on a path to find something greater than themselves. The writers in "Alif" narrate the firsts that shaped their ideas about romance, sex and their sense of self.

In "International Habibti," women live out the fantasy of falling in love with a beautiful stranger while traveling in Argentina, Sri Lanka, France, Egypt--or rounding an unexpected corner in New York City.

Next comes "Third Time's the Naseeb," where three women find unexpected and lasting love the third time around. We end with "You've Got Ayat," in which age-old rites of love, dating, and courtship collide with 21st century social networking.

These 25 writers live in small towns and big cities across the country and reflect a broad range of religious perspectives, from orthodox to cultural to secular. As such, they reflect the depth, breadth, and diversity of the American experience. For every story included in this book, there are thousands more out there, each as unique as the woman behind it.

We hope you'll enjoy hearing from these women as much as we have.


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Ayesha Mattu is a human rights consultant, photographer, and writer. She was selected a Muslim Leader of Tomorrow by the UN Alliance of Civilizations and the American Society for Muslim Advancement in 2009. She lives in San Francisco. Nura Maznavi is a civil rights attorney and writer. Nura was raised in Los Angeles and now lives in San Francisco.

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This article is inspiring and highlights the importance of creating visibility for still prominent issues such as stereotypes against Muslim women. "Love InshAllah", may have generated some controversy, but so have many other sources created to make a difference.

Women through the generations have inherently been though of as more "passive" and less inclined to speak up. This book is a great example of women having the courage to stand up, to "raise our voices and tell our own stories." Such courage by women has been the backbone of women's rights throughout the decades, but there is still much to be changed.

As one reviewer states of the book:

"This illuminating anthology presents stories by American Muslim women on dating, love, marriage, heartbreak, remorse, lust and longing. It’s a work that should be applauded, not only for its rarity and timeliness, but also for its ability to celebrate these utterly normal, healthy, messy, and all-too human discussions about love and sexuality which for too long have been buried under a veil of shame, fear, and self-imposed censorship" (Wajahat Ali, Domestic Crusaders).

A negative review found on says: "…I don't really see the "Muslim" part in this book. It could as well have been just about women, or American women, or American women of born foreign parents. There is very little emphasis on Islam per se in some stories that it's hard to relate to them." Both reviews sum up what I believe to be a very important message of the book. It's about WOMEN.

As Matta and Nura state, "The truth is--like most women--we're independent and opinionated. And the only things hiding under our clothes are hearts yearning for love. As the article says, "For every story included in this book, there are thousands more out there each as unique as the woman behind it." "Love InshAllah" may only document the voices of 25 writers, but from the multiplicity of positive reviews I have read, it has assuredly resonated with a plethora of women who may see themselves within the pages and similar to Betty Friedan's "The Feminist Mystique" have finally been given a source to relate to.