Domestic Violence

Battered Women Take Custody Battles to White House

Friday, May 7, 2010

Battered mothers often shy away from publicity. But this year, in a sign of their growing organization, some plan to spend Mother's Day in Washington in a White House vigil to draw attention to a court system that often gives custody to abusers.



A quilt made by protective parents. Each panel represents a child or family lost to or being fought for in the court system.(WOMENSENEWS)--On Mother's Day, busloads of battered moms and advocates for abused children will roll into Washington, D.C.

They'll hold a vigil outside the White House in an effort to persuade President Obama to take up their cause of reforming a family court system that they say all too often puts children into the hands of abusive parents.

For some it marks a new and somewhat frightening degree of public exposure. Some of the protesters will be shrouded in scarves, hiding from their abusers or a court system they fear will punish them for speaking out.

"They're whistleblowers," said vigil organizer Connie Valentine, policy director for The California Protective Custody Association, based in Sacramento. "The system doesn't look kindly on whistleblowers. It's a difficult situation because we have seen enormous judicial retaliation against mothers who step up in front of the problem."

Efforts to quantify the problem are just beginning but protective parents claim it is widespread. A study done by the Williamsburg, Va.-based American Judges Foundation in the early 1990s showed that in 70 percent of challenged cases, battering parents involved in custody battles persuaded authorities the victimized parent was unfit for sole custody, according to a spokesperson from the foundation.

Valentine and other advocates for protective parents call the family courts broken and corrupt and say the system not only puts children into the hands of abusive parents, it also bankrupts and punishes the protective parents who fight for them. At the same time, they say it's hard to reform the system because the people it hurts are hiding from abusers and anxious to avoid publicity.

Shifting Ground

But Valentine feels the ground shifting. "I think we're in the early stages of a civil rights movement for protecting children from physical and sexual abuse."

She said the Internet is helping battered mothers come together. "E-mail has helped. It's a good part of the reason for all of the advocacy," Valentine said. "Women are beginning to see that it's not their fault and that they are just pawns in the game."

Mo Hannah, psychology professor at Siena College, near Albany, N.Y., used the Internet to organize the first annual conference for battered women seeking custody in 2004, after her own difficult custody battle.

This past January marked the seventh gathering, which meets annually in Albany and is the major organizing and networking event of the year for protective parents.

"The first conference was about getting people to talk and validate their experiences," Hannah said. "But as the conferences continued it became very clear that we needed a national movement. Now the conference is just sort of an umbrella or structure that encourages people to share with each other."

Over the seven years, women have met at the conference and formed smaller groups, such as the Massachusetts Protective Mothers for Custodial Justice.

"Mass Moms," as it has come to be known, brings together women who have gone through custody battles with those currently in the throes. Volunteers accompany women to court and on lawyer visits and play a general shepherding role.

"We stand next to a woman who is fighting for her children while she pleads and receives orders," one Mass Mom told Women's eNews at January's Battered Mothers Custody Conference.

These volunteers have all been through their own custody battles and declined to be named for fear of retribution from their ex-husbands or the court system. Many have gag orders associated with their own cases. It is this type of fear of retribution that has helped keep the protective parents movement under the radar.

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This abuse is going to stop. To see how you can help, go to The Leadership Council's website, take their online survey and get involved.
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God bless all, especially our children whose voice goes unheard.

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This is a tradegy occuring in well documented cases in all 50 states here in the USA.

CourtWatch Florida, http://www.courtwatchflorida.org

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We are forming a powerful group to protect those who voices go unheard. We will NEVER give up until change occurs.

Next stop is South Carolina...Charleston County

Something need s to be done in NC Davidson co. I'am a victim of this and so are my children the judge put my children in temporary custody of the abuser and the kids are being abused now and judge left it open and cps and mediation says they can't do nothing falls back on the judge that ordered it which did not look at the eveidence before he made a order and i had a legitimate reason I was trying to protect my children and my father had a stroke on my case but judge ordered before he looked at the evidence and I'am also a domestic violence survivor with 2 little ones ages 5 yrs and 7yrs . This is an out rage !:( I can't afford a $5,000 retainer for a lawyer to fight this and have not seen my children for 8 months and not talked to them on the phone since January 23. 2010 ! The father will not let me have visits or contact and i had sole full exclusive custody of my children . Now you tell me whats wrong with this picture ??

Another advocacy group that protective mothers can join to advocate for change in the family court system is Protective Mothers Alliance International co-founded and co-directed by Janice Levinson and Lundy Bancroft. You may join our group by calling 941 - 822 - 5592 or emailing Janice at: lb.jlpma@gmail.com
These tragedies are not isolated incidents as this is a wide spread international problem mothers and children are enduring all over the world.

Wife-beating is a crime and it belongs under the jurisdiction of a criminal court and not the farce and fraud of family court. If judicial immunity is not ended for family court judges, then the family court judges will keep-on breaking the law for financial gain, for favors and for bribes. If a family court judge grants custody of children to a wife-beater, then he should be charged with child endangerment. If the wife-beater is a danger to his (ex)wife, then he is a danger to her children. One does not need a law degree to know this. Taxpayers' money is supporting the family courts, so the courts should be open to the public, to weed out corrupt and negligent judges and mediators, in the public interest and in the children's interest. The family courts should be open to the press/media, to the public and to court watchdog organizations, to ensure that the evidence is not destroyed.

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